programmed too well.

Hey.

Two tips for dealing with internal (and irrational) fears/issues:

1) Acceptance: sometimes, acceptance is the best way to dissolve annoying, never-ending thoughts in your mind. The reason for this is that irrational, insecure thoughts in your mind are usually self-sustained, meaning YOU create, and perpetuate them.

Thus, TRYING to stop the thoughts, to fight them, to resist them, actually ends up perpetuating them. It's like the old adage, "What you resist, persists." In my experience, ACCEPTING anxiety and irrational thoughts has been the best cure. When you face the thoughts, and ACCEPT that they are there, it means that the illusory thoughts that were illusions in the first place, are no longer being perpetuated BY YOU.

Acceptance of your irrational, illusory thoughts/fears actually DISSOLVING THEM. It's very weird, and VERY counter-intuitive, but it has worked for me. YOU ARE self-perpetuating the thoughts, and TRYING to get rid of them actually REINFORCES them.

What you resist, persists.

2) Pushing Through: On the other hand (lol), sometimes, I think old habits (even mental, thought-based habits), require a certain degree of effort. Although acceptance is very powerful, sometimes old habits require consistent, NEW effort in the opposite of that original bad habit so you can pave new habits.

However, I say start with acceptance, test it out, and see how that works.